Clint Hill

Father, Son, Brother, Uncle

Category: Personal

Nothing goes as planned

This last week has been great and exhausting. It has reminded me that nothing goes as planned.

When you’re a kid you plan on big things. You believe in big ideas. Some time later you give up on a few of those. Then as age creeps up on you, it starts to remove the gloss on those shiny plans you had.

It’s so obvious, and yet very hard to really accept. Plans are meant to be broken. You just can’t control life. Fate or higher power, call it whatever you want, just understand it’s not you.

Willie wrote once: “We are not in control. And that’s Ok.”

If you let plans slip, and allow it to be Ok, life is much easier to understand. Otherwise you can waste a lot of time being frustrated and confused.

This week a one or two things didn’t go as planned and it caused me a lot of stress and frustration. My patience got really thin a few times. But I can look back to this week and be happy, because while my plans changed my life didn’t.

And that’s Ok.

1 week down

Finished a week of vacation. I accomplished most of what I wanted to do. Nothing for example was something I’d hoped to achieve. Check. There was a list of other things I’d hoped to do, and I did a little bit of each. I have 3 more days off. I think I’ll try to cram that list into these last few days.

Vacation

For the first time in a very long while, I have more than a 4 day weekend off of work. In fact I have more than a week. This weekend we’re going to Havasu to get out on the boat. After that however …

Just a quick list of hopeful things to do while I’m not working:

  • Get recpopulace out the door to beta
  • Finish porting of the Ruby Gem Citrus to JavaScript
  • Add 2 more projects to my Github account (citrus port and something else)
  • Spend a day with my sister and nephews and niece
  • Write a few more blog entries on something other than programming
  • Get A/C in the garage – money permitting

I’ll obviously spend a lot of time with the girls. And I’ll have the obvious chores around the house. And now that I’ve created a list I feel like I won’t have enough time.

Geez.

:)

Position yourself, then say “yes”

This morning my reading led me to 2 different blog posts about successful people. The first mentioned it was about becoming successful by actually doing something. The statement was when you decide to do something, opportunity comes.

The second post was about positioning yourself for success instead of relying on skill, luck or some other form of intangible. The statement was not everyone has equal skill or equal luck, however everyone can show up and position themselves.

I can relate to all that. I’ve done that a lot in my life. My baseball career in college was strictly positioning and doing. I didn’t get a scholarship right away. In fact I didn’t get recruited. Nor did I even get invited. Rather I just showed up to a coaches office and said “I’m Clint from Parker – I called earlier.”

Yes. I called coaches in Kansas (with the help of my high school coach: Thanks Coach Flax). I called and said I want to play. I was an average ball player from a 3A school in a small town in Arizona. Most phone calls ended with coaches saying sorry no thanks. Most had full rosters. Except for two teams: Dodge City and Garden City. They both nonchalantly said “sure come on out.”

I packed everything I owned into the back of the S-10 I had and drove to Kansas. I had $120 for gas and food. I had never been further east than Phoenix. I didn’t even really have an appointment with either of these coaches. I just knew they would be trying out other guys that they actually recruited in the next week. They said I could show up and try out.

The try outs were pretty lopsided. I wasn’t ready. I was scared. But I wanted it bad. I threw myself all over the field. Literally. I was the only player that had dirt on my jersey. I didn’t get a single hit during batting. I fouled off everything. I couldn’t see the ball. During strength and endurance I decided that I was going to be noticed. They noticed me because when it was all over I was puking all over the dugout.

Dodge City offered me a spot. Not a real spot. A walk-on spot. That meant they would let me continue to try out. But it came with the best circumstances. Coach called a financial aid office, then called the housing office and before I knew it I had a Pell grant, a loan and all my dorm room reservations set. I had school paid for and a place to stay. Over the course of 1 night coach had made all that happen. I didn’t hit the ball once in batting practice. But because I swung at everything and puked all over the place he felt I deserved another chance to try out.

I eventually walked on and got a full ride scholarship. I still have my NJCAA Letter of Intent. It’s the same letter that all of the “recruited” players sign. Same piece of paper. But I had to earn it over the course of a semester. Trying out every day.

That part of my life determined a lot of who I am today. It showed me that if I wanted something I could position myself to do anything. If I say “yes” that it means most of the hard work is over. Even in my work I do this. I get asked “is this doable?” and I usually say yes. Some people would say this is a detriment. I get in over my head quite a bit. In fact I fail quite a bit too. Most of the time the work is bigger than I originally felt it would be. But I work through it. I finish. Always.

And because I work through it, and because I position myself to be there, and because I say yes: I always win. I win because I get the experience, the knowledge and the opportunity. Others may see failure because I don’t hit the ball on the first at bat. I see success because I’m in the game.

Observations on expectations and praise

There are a few things I’ve observed recently that have made me understand work relationships a little better.

Regarding expectations, I’ve noticed that those who are expected of and feel they deliver on those expectations often get disappointed. This is usually due to the fact that what they delivered was expected and therefore not praised as some work of heroics. Or maybe they weren’t praised at all. Generally: do as you’re asked and nothing happens.

Put another way, those who continue to deliver as expected are generally asked to do more of the same. And with each delivery less and less praise is received (if at all). This is strictly because it is expected to be done. However this disappoints those who deliver on expectations because everyone could use a “pat on the back”.

Now consider those who deliver more than expected. This often receives some form of “praise”. Naturally praise is given when “above and beyond the call of duty” work is performed. For those who did the work ,this feels great. And sometimes it’s motivational. People will want to do it again.

Let’s then consider when “above and beyond the call of duty” work is performed again and again. That creates a new normal. A new expectation level. Above and beyond is now expected. Praise then wanes. Disappointment brews in those who do the work. This demotivates those doing the work. Sometimes indignation creeps into those doing the work.

In all cases bad blood is created between those asking for the work and those doing the work.

In my opinion there are things that each side can change that may prevent disappointment and bad blood.

For those doing the work: do it for yourself – not for praise from others. Remember that work is what you make it. If you are lucky enough to really enjoy your work, leave it at that. If you don’t enjoy your work, well that’s an entirely different problem. Expecting praise will lead to disappointment because it’s never enough. Face it, people are busy and what you do in the big picture is yours. No one else is going to really appreciate your work. Learn to praise yourself and learn to need only yourself to feel good about what you do. If you are happy doing exactly as you’re expected, good for you. The world needs more of you. If you want to do more and go beyond the call of duty, good for you. You should be proud of yourself for being a person who wants to do more. But in either case don’t get ruined when others don’t provide you some form of recognition. Recognize yourself.

For those asking for the work: remember what people are sacrificing. At work it’s easy to say that within the window of 8-5, people are willingly giving up life’s pleasures such as free time and leisure activities. But don’t forget that there are emotional and psychological sacrifices made all the time. Pride and ego are big things, and you shouldn’t inadvertently stomp all over them by simply forgetting to throw a little praise around. If people are delivering on your expectations, remind them that you know. Let them know that you’re paying attention. Rub their pride a little with an easy “thanks” or “good job”.

“No good deed goes unnoticed”. Bullshit. They do all the time. So keep doing those deeds for yourself and learn to notice others doing the same.

I’m not Clint J Hill

I have the fortune of having a historical figure’s name. However I’m not Clint J Hill.

I’ll never be #1 in a Google search – and I’m Ok with that. But for those that have left comments here at my blog believing I’m the other Clint J Hill, I apologize. You’ve found the wrong Clint J Hill.

The 1 big tip – I don’t go by “Clinton”.

Going to Showlow

The whole family will be in the mountains for Turkey. Can’t wait.

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